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Regan Forrest's avatar

Thanks so much for sharing Nina. I totally relate to the addiction to achievement. For me, this came with a side order of a feeling of failure because I never reached the level of achievement I aspired to (to be more like you tbh!). I've moved mostly out of the museum world now, but am still figuring out how to not completely define myself by my work, and feeling like anything less than brilliant is failure. Recently I lost a colleague to suicide and my Dad to cancer mere weeks after diagnosis, both a reminder that life is short and the people who really know and love you aren't the ones keeping a tally of your outward achievements.

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Tatiana Stone's avatar

This is beautiful, thank you for sharing. I aspire to write stories of inter-generational women being amazing together and murder mysteries are my favorite type of story. Seeing that you wrote something like this is very very inspiring. Also hearing about someone else who has left the impact-focused world is heartening. I worked in nonprofits for years and had to leave because of the high emotional toll and toxicity that seems to be at every organization I've ever encountered. People frequently ask me, so when are you going to be an ED and I'm always like, NEVER, absolutely never. I don't know that there is a healthy way for me to ever do that. I am now consulting with nonprofits so I can keep myself safer emotionally, but part of me also is regularly wracked with guilt. Guilt that I can't "handle" regular work, guilt that I'm not doing enough, guilt that I'm not making a big enough impact, and the list goes on (seemingly forever). Hearing that other people struggle with this guilt is helpful. Thank you again for your honesty and openness.

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